Could you give a code snippet of the problem ? Here's what I tried :
<xctk:IntegerUpDown x:Name="myIntegerUpDown" Width="200" Watermark="Watermark" />
<xctk:IntegerUpDown x:Name="myIntegerUpDown2" Width="200" Value="{Binding Value, ElementName=myIntegerUpDown}" />
The 2 controls are always in sync, whether the up or down arrows are used.